“I can’t cry.”
After our first article on this subject, The 7 Benefits of Crying after Heartbreak, we were flooded with this reaction. Guess what? Everyone cries. The difference is that some tears are eager to climb over our bottom lids while others stay shackled inside. If your tears repeatedly fall into the latter category, you may suffer from the notion that crying indicates weakness. Other factors that hinder a true release of tears include insufficient role models and lack of practice. In all of these cases, there is still hope that you can learn to cry. Letting your tears loose is an important part of the healing process, so give the techniques below a whirl.
The secret to crying is the production of physical tears. As opposed to sitting down and trying to make yourself cry, let’s simply aim to get the salty secretion to start. The purpose of this method is to fool your body into believing you are crying which will quickly guide you into a genuine cry. You see, your body cannot distinguish between a contrived tear and one that is produced naturally; therefore, when you start tearing, it builds the momentum that leads to a true emotional release. After the tearing begins, you will continue using visualization and eventually you’ll be in the midst of some serious water works. Enough talk – let’s cry!
1. Find a silent area. Sit comfortably on either a sofa or a chair.
2. Relax the muscles in your face.
3. Close your eyes. Take 5 slow and deep breaths in and out.
4. Next, recall something sad – a pet passing, the loss of a friend, your break up. Take some time to find the right scenario before moving on.
5. Now close your eyes again and visualize the scene you chose. Take your time to go through each of your senses at the time. How did the room smell? What were you touching? What details could you see? Was there a particular taste you can recall? What sounds did you hear? What was said?
6. Walk yourself through the scene from beginning to end.
7. Keep in mind how you feel and open your eyes.
Next, create the physical environment:
7. Close your eyes again and rub them gently for about one minute.
8. Open your eyes and hold your eyelids wide open with your fingers.
9. Remain as such for up to 2 minutes trying to expose your eyes to as much air as possible. When your eyes begin to sting, this is a good sign. The tears should form soon.
10. Begin to make sobbing noises. Breathe rapidly as if you are hyperventilating,
11. Walk yourself through the visualization technique once again.
*Try crying along to a movie where the actor is crying.
*If onions make you tear, try cutting some up while using the visualization technique.
*Yawn multiple times. After the tears begin, use the visualization technique.
*Make sure your are fully hydrated. Drink plenty of water and try it again.
Have you had trouble crying? For further suggestions or questions, please comment below.